Alexa Loves AYA’s: The Middle

My dear friend, there you are again! Welcome back to Alexa Loves AYA’s. I’m so glad you came back to visit me.

I have a song for you that was super popular in the early 2000’s. Have you heard it before? If not, let me introduce you to tonight’s song, The Middle by Jimmy Eat World.

Have other people written you off? Even worse, have you written yourself off? Do you believe it’s over for you? I want to encourage you today and share why I don’t think that’s true! Here is a thought I want to share:

Labels can be painfully accurate about someone’s past while missing their future by a mile.

Let’s make a quick edit to that:

A diagnosis can be painfully accurate about someone’s past or current abilities while missing their future by a mile.

I am confident that no matter what you still have something to give, even if it looks different than you had imagined. I understand that your dreams may have required modifications or were forced to change entirely. You are not disqualified! Although you might not be there right now, please don’t write yourself off yet! Here is a good perspective I learned: Everybody has to face this in life eventually. You are just in the middle of figuring out what’s next and it takes some time. I am really looking forward to what you will achieve dear friend, and don’t forget about me when you get there!

Thanks for tuning in to this edition of Alexa Loves AYA’s and spending part of your evening with me. Feel free to send a link or tag on social media if a loved one needs to hear this. I look forward to dedicating another song to you and expressing more of my heart next week! I can’t wait to visit with you again, dear friend.

Alexa Loves AYA’s: True Colors

Welcome back to Alexa Loves AYA’s! Tonight is interesting because while I have ONE song dedication for you, I have TWO versions. Since AYA’s are a wide age demographic (15-39), and I include former AYA’s too, I wanted to provide an option for either spectrum you’re on.

Tonight’s song is True Colors by Cyndi Lauper (original) and a cover by Justin Timberlake and Anna Kendrick from the Trolls soundtrack. I personally grew up hearing Phil Collins’ cover on the radio. If that’s your jam, by all means, pull it up!

Do you get more questions about your diagnosis than about what you’re up to? Have you dealt with whispers of “Hey, it’s them. They have___.” while they forget you’re an actual person? I have!

I want to make a quick note on this, most people DO (usually) mean well! They care enough about you to ask, but sometimes they lack the self awareness to realize that it appears it’s all they care about. Others may not understand how off the balance is between talking about your diagnosis and talking about YOU! They are two separate things.

You aren’t your IV drip, mini home pharmacy, body part loss, or whatever else you can think of! You are how your eyes light up when you’re happy. You are how giddy you get geeking out over your interests. You are how you like your coffee or tea a certain way. You are how you gently love on a furry friend. You are how kind you treat the ones you love. None of that has anything to do with your diagnosis! These are your TRUE COLORS!

Dear friend, I want to encourage you this week to let your true colors show. Like redirecting a conversation from your diagnosis to something you’re interested in, or a project you’re working on. Don’t be afraid to take the spotlight off that topic and shift it back to who you really are and what you enjoy. The world makes us all crazy at times, but know I will continue to be here and see your true colors.

Thanks for coming to Alexa loves AYA’s and spending part of your evening with me. Feel free to send a link or tag on social media if a loved one needs to hear this. I look forward to dedicating another song to you and expressing more of my heart next week! I can’t wait to visit with you again, dear friend.

Alexa Loves AYA’s: Super Cool

Welcome to our debut of Alexa loves AYA’s! What on earth is going on? Great question!

Do you remember song dedication radio programs? I love listening to them. Yes, they are still around! I’m always curious why people connect with certain songs and enjoy hearing the stories they share. But, there is just one thing…have you ever secretly wished you would hear a familiar voice call in and dedicate a song for you? I know I have! Guess what?

THE WAIT IS OVER!

If you are part of the adolescent/young adult (known as AYA, ages 15-39) family current or former, either by cancer or chronic illness, I will be dedicating a song just for YOU! I will also add in a few words to hopefully provide some encouragement. I am going to be dedicating songs you might not normally hear in this context, so plan to be surprised!

Ideally, I wish we could have at least a whole hour together. I would love for you to call in with your thoughts, questions, stories, tests results, and song dedications of your own. While I am not the Delilah of the community, I realized I have a blog and can start here. It is so important to me that you know you are valued. I care about you deeply.

Lets get to it guys! Our first song making it’s debut on our program (yes, it’s okay to giggle) is Super Cool by Beck featuring Robyn and The Lonely Island. This was on the credits for The LEGO Movie 2: The Second Part. I went to see it with my brother earlier this year and we both enjoyed the song. I have provided the adorable lyric video they created so you can enjoy the song and have something fun to watch!

I want you to know that…

YOU ARE UNBELIEVABLE

YOU ARE SUPER COOL

YOU ARE OUTRAGEOUS

YOU ARE AMAZING

YOU ARE PHENOMENAL

YOU ARE FANTASTIC

YOU ARE SO INCREDIBLE

WOOOOOO HOOOOOO!

This lyric is about you. I know people don’t understand what you go through on a daily basis and unfortunately they probably never will. But I see you! I’m so proud of you for keeping on even when it was and is SO HARD. Like that time you were up all night with scanxiety. Or when you didn’t want to do your treatments due to the side effects. You don’t have to be an inspiration to me or anybody else, that’s not the point. We both understand you had no choice. While unfortunately you may continue to face challenges, you are everything said in this song and more! You are certainly SUPER COOL right now, even during the times when you feel like you aren’t. We all have those days!

Thanks for tuning in to this edition of the new Alexa loves AYA’s and spending part of your evening with me. Feel free to send a link or tag on social media if a loved one needs to hear this. I look forward to dedicating another song to you and expressing my more of heart next week! I can’t wait until we meet again dear friend.